When Katy Perry released the hit single “I kissed a girl and I liked it” the song caused a lot of controversy. It allowed girls to explore their sexuality and think about the idea of engaging in activities with the same sex. All of a sudden, girls would go to parties and make out with their friends and blame it on being “drunk” or bi-curious. When Frank Ocean wrote his hit single ”Thinking about you”. He caused a lot of uproar and it sparked major rumors about him being bisexual. I won’t lie there were moments in my life whereby I thought mm… I wonder what it might feel like to make out with a certain girl. Have you ever been in that situation? I know most guys who think it’s an absolute turn on for girls to make out, but what happens when things switch around, what happens when a guy wants to make out with a guy and a girl? And actually has feelings for them.
Lunga Tshabalala is a student. He was born and raised in Soweto. He comes from a very conservative Christian family. He basically attended church for most of his lifetime. But he feels as though he’s different. He is a guy who is bisexual, he grew up in a household full of boys. But he feels as though he has always had a feminine side. He would go out with his friends and notice that guys are hot.
At times he felt as though the people around him could see that he wasn’t straight. He did not know who to open up to, he felt as though he would be judged by his family and friends. So he would rather keep his secret buried inside. He describes his incidents of being attracted to both girls and guys as being “strange’’. He feels attracted mostly to gay guys, he likes their appearance and the way they carry themselves, whereas with females he is interested in their personality traits instead of their looks. He even had the courage to tell his former girlfriend about his sexuality. She didn’t take him seriously. I mean imagine dating a guy for months, and then all of a sudden he tells you that he has sexual feelings for guys and girls! Not only would you be in denial but surely you would end up thinking that there is something wrong with you, or the relationship.
“You cannot change who you are”, he said. Time and time again he has tried to run away from this factor in his life. But he has decided that this is who he is and there is no amount of prayer or judgment that can erase his sexuality and his thinking. When I asked him about how he feels about this entire situation this is what he said, “You can hide it from everybody else but you can’t hide it from yourself”.
We live in a society whereby if you are different in any form you are constantly misunderstood. Lunga thought it was vital for him to share his experience so that guys out there would not feel intimidated or weird about having feeling for both sexes. If you are a guy who is dealing with the notion of being bisexual it’s important for you to know that you may not be the only guy who is dealing with this issue. If you are dealing with this issue, or if you know of anyone who may be facing the challenge of being bisexual visit this site http://www.iamgay.org.za/