Have you ever sent your crush that “Morning :)” text on WhatsApp and just got blue ticks and no reply? Or woken up to a friend request from your ex – the one that blocked you on social media after the break-up? Well, in the wise words of Justin Bieber, “What do you mean?!”
Live SA asked a few social media addicts for their experiences on dating in the social media age and uncovered a few dating truths.
Gabby Mathibe (21) says she always stalks people she’s interested in. “I find out where they hang out. Let’s say they hang out somewhere in Braamfontein then I’ll go there. Then if we start a conversation, it’s good!”
Posting pictures of your favourite hangout spots makes it easier for your online crushes to find you and “coincidentally” strike up an interesting conversation. They will know where to find you, what your interests are and, of course, the colour of your bathroom tiles.
Asked if there’s anything off-putting while stalking, Abby Javier (25) says vanity is a huge turn off. While Kyle Kheswa (18) loses interest when “girls post those quotes like ‘Don’t judge me because I’m myself.’”
Flirting can be complicated, but let’s be honest, you can always tell when someone is interested.
Joseph Monaheng (25) has an online flirting routine. “I like a few pictures or favourite her tweets, then wait for about two days before I message her.”
Even Facebook pokes are considered flirting to some. Matsebo Meyi (23) says, “A poke means you like me.” But not everyone shares that sentiment. Doll Mhone (24) says pokes are like poking around on the playground: “They don’t mean anything.”
Is there a right time to declare your relationship on social media? For Thabang Makhathi (21) there is no right time, it’s something you as a couple need to decide together.
Making a relationship official on social media is as tough as sealing the deal in reality. Natasha Ndlebe (22) says that only relationships that have been going on for over two years are worthy of being updated online.
While Joseph claims a month is long enough.
Valber Matavane (21) says he’s cheated online. “All the time! It’s not cheating. Everybody, when in a relationship, gets flirtatious. It makes you feel like you still got it.”
While most guys don’t consider virtual flirtations cheating, all the ladies strongly disagreed to flirting while in a relationship.
“I was dumped via a Facebook message after a three-year relationship… I cried. She also deleted me on Facebook, then added me again,” says 22-year-old Neville Darangwa.
Valber says it’s childish to unfriend and delete pictures after a breakup. “I’d rather post a photo of me with someone else.”
There are also some who take unfriending a bit too far, says Doll. “My friend broke up with his chick and unfriended me. He couldn’t stand seeing anything that reminded him of her.”
Abby adds that when her relationship ends she’s likely to delete everything. Even burn the computer itself.
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